One of my favourite exercises during counsellor training was when we were invited to imagine our life as a book – not a polished autobiography or dramatic memoir, but the honest story of “me.”
It sounded simple, and fun, but it really got us thinking about how we make sense of our experiences, our relationships, and the world around us.
If you’d like to try it, here are three questions to get you started:
- What would the title of my book be?
- What would my chapter headings be?
- How does my book end?
All of us tell ourselves stories all the time about how we experience the world, and all of us tend to have themes we focus on and return to.
What your book title might reveal about how you see yourself
Some people choose titles that reflect survival or resilience:
- “The strong one”
- “An angry man”
Others choose titles that speak to growth or transformation:
- “Becoming”
- “Stepping into the light”
For some, adventure or unpredictability feels central:
- “A roller coaster ride”
- “No sleep for the excited”
And for others, gentleness might be the theme:
- “Peace at last”
- “The homebody”
Your chosen title might show you how you tend to frame your story around autonomy, connection, loss, healing, or something else entirely. There are no right answers here – just insight into how you are currently viewing your life.
What your chapter headings might reveal
These often indicate the turning points, transitions, and people, that have shaped you. They might reflect:
- Key relationships - “The teacher who believed in me”
- Beliefs you have held about yourself – “The fierce one”
- Times you felt valued and understood - “A Birthday to remember”
- Times you felt unseen and unheard - “Never enough”
- Times you learned important lessons - “I see it differently”
The headings are not about accuracy. They are about meaning making, the moments that have mattered to you, and the experiences that still resonate.
How does your book end?
After the chapter you are living now, what do you hope the rest of your life feels like? Not what you achieve, but what you experience.
Imagining the ending isn’t about predicting the future but about noticing what matters to you at this point in your life – what you want to keep, find, or let go of.
Your imagined ending might also reveal whether you tend to view your life with optimism or pessimism and whether you like to take risks or exercise caution. Some find it easy to picture a hopeful ending; others find it difficult, often because hope has been difficult to trust in their life to date. Again, there is no right or wrong – just information about how you see yourself, others and the world.
What does this exercise help us understand?
Reflecting on your life as a book can help you explore questions such as:
- What do I believe my life has been about?
- Who and what has shaped me the most?
- Who and what has challenged me the most?
- What themes do I return to?
- What chapter am I living currently?
- Do I want my life to continue on its current path or change direction?
Let your answers come without pressure. They are not predictions. They’re glimpses into what matters to you, what you’ve already resolved, what you’re still making sense of, and the story you’re currently living inside.
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